Why is it so hard for my in-laws to treat the kids fairly?



Well here's the situation. I have two kids from a previous marriage and my husband has one. My family has no problem accepting my husband's daughter into our family. They buy for all three kids the same and always make sure that they are all treated equally.

Different story when it comes to my in-laws. They pretend like they're going to be fair at holidays and spend the same on all the kids, but always end up "finding" more gifts for my step-daughter.

This hurts my kids' feeling and they want to know why she always gets more than them. This is causing "BIG" problems in my marriage. I know that they are my husbands parents but no good mother stands around while her kids are being treated wrongly. What should I do?

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Dec 13, 2009
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Children treated unfairly
by: Anonymous

I agree completely! My in laws treat the kids "equally" when they "have to," but the fact remains that they prefer my step daughter over the other two grandchildren!

My husband has adopted my daughter and we have a son together, but his parents only ask to see my stepdaughter and only see my kids if we ask them to babysit.

They call my stepdaughter on the phone to see how she is doing, but they don't call or ask about my daughter or son. I have a stepson also that we don't get to see due to long distance and they always ask about him and send him gift cards.

Out of all the grandchildren, my step daughter is the one who has her own room at my in laws house. Everything they have is "hers" and I don't understand it...why do parents have a hard time treating children fairly?

Nov 13, 2009
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Kids Treated Unfairly by Inlaws
by: Anonymous

I would like to know too...I am going through almost exactly the same situation. I would love to know what responses you've gotten.

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