Lesbian Parents: When to Tell Your Son About His Dad by: Laura Ramirez
Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy! And congratulations on being so visionary that you want to start thinking about how much information to give your son when he starts to ask the inevitable questions. You sound like a caring parent.
Unfortunately, you haven't given me enough information to answer your question. The first question I have for you is: do you know who the father is? Your answer to this question will make all the difference in determining what to tell your son and when it is age-appropriate to give him more specific information.
Sep 07, 2008 Rating
the question i had was what to TELL our son about his daddy by: the one with the question
Although you may have thought you were the first person to be honest and show some tough love... you weren't. The question was what to tell a child about his daddy, not your opinion on the fact that we are a LOVING lesbian couple that has a baby boy. (just cause we are lesbian doesn't mean we don't have any males in our lives!). Regardless of your beliefs, studies have shown that children of gay or lesbian partners grow to be more accepting of people of differences, less judgmental, and more open-minded compared to those of heterosexual families. Besides single mothers are raising mentally healthy boys everyday, all over the world.
God bless you and your family, not JUST your children. :P
Sep 06, 2008 Rating
Unfortunate by: Anonymous
Undeniably, every boy needs a father. It is unfortunate that you and your partner could not see beyond your selfishness to see this great need for your future child. Love is truly not enough, as poetic as that may sound. In light of this and realizing that it is too late to change your current situation, you should see a counselor to find the healthiest way to explain to your son your decision. Additionally, you need to find a reliable and dedicated male figure (perhaps a grandfather or uncle) to step up to the plate to be there for your son to provide a male role model, support, and companionship. As he grows up, involve him in activities (such as Tae Kwon Do, swimming, or any group activity) where he can have an involved with other boys for role modeling. Good luck to you and God bless your child.
