Weirdest Things Teachers Say

My son's teachers have said the weirdest things to him or about him to me. As these teachers spend 8 hours per day, 9 months of the year interacting with him, I wonder as a parent, how might I manage teachers better? Does any one have an example to share and/or a good response?


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Jan 05, 2009
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Teacher's Inappropriate Comments
by: Laura Ramirez

The teacher who said your child was passive-aggressive was probably passive-aggressive herself. This is a well-documented psychological tactic called projection. Projection means that we see in others what we cannot see in ourselves.

To help your son learn how to deal with adults who do not have his best interests in mind in the future, I highly recommend you read the chapter in my parenting book, Keepers of the Children that shows parents how to teach children to see beyond people's authority, posturing and polish to the behavior that reveals their hidden motives. In this way, you teach children into people's character as they're growing up.

I have raised my children in this way and I can't express how safe it makes me feel to know that my children "see" people. Even though they are just teenagers, they are quite psychologically savvy. Of course, it is up to me to deal with the adults of the world. My kid's job is just to notice the adult's behavior and it's my job to handle it, but this also helps them to see into their peer's behavior and to choose friends that bring out the best in them.

Although most teachers are dedicated and caring individuals, there are some who use their power over children in ways that are unethical and inhumane. In my book, you'll read about some incidents that my kids went through (one involving the poor judgment of a principal) and how I handled it.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Jan 04, 2009
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Good thing
by: Anonymous

Wow, that is a bad situation for you to have been in. I am pleased to hear that the woman retired. It is sometimes very hard to deal with teachers who, for whatever reason, clash with our children. It sounds like you took all the right steps. Trying to work with the teacer first, then going to the principal. If you encounter difficulty again, those are the first steps to take, but there are more things that can be done when dealing with an uncooperative teacher. Always keep great notes (dates and times of calls and/or ptc's, and email is a great communication tool as well), put everything in writing if possible and make sure to give a copy to the teacher and the principal. If things are really bad, a copy can also be sent to the school board and the head of the school district. I am glad that this teacher is no longer an influence in your son's life. I wish you the best and a wonderful new year!
Laura

Jan 04, 2009
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by: Anonymous

sorry about that. his teacher said he was passive/aggressive. he was only 7. she played mind games with him, changed his seating arrangement, sent notes home to me indicating that she checked his book bag for homework-- even though when i checked, his work was in his bag. he didn't submit his homework to her because he was intimidated by her. she moved his seat from the front to the very last row in the back even though he was encouraged to select the seat during orientation and even though he had a lazy eye problem (noted on the information sheet). the list goes on. finally, i had meetings with the principal. she retired the same summer. i hope other parents are active and really intent on making sure the school environment is a pleasant one... thanks for sharing and listening to my story...

Jan 04, 2009
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by: Anonymous

my son's teacher said that he was passive/aggressive. she did not provide any examples. i attended a ptc, she described a game she played whereby she would ask the students a question, if they got the answer wrong, she would direct them to lie their heads on their desk. she also wrote notes to me about missing homework. this is understandable except that she would say that she had checked his bookbag-- and the work was missing. when i followed up, the homework was in the bag. my son didn't give it to her (he was intimidated) but she definitely didn't check his bag. she moved him to the back of the room (even though he had a lazy eye problem- noted on the info sheet) then she complained when he played tic tac toe. so eventually, i had a meeting with the principal.... the list goes on. finally, she retired. i'm just hoping other parents stand up and take notice of what really happens in some classes.... thanks...

Dec 30, 2008
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by: Laura

You say that your son's teachers say weird things to him or to you about him, but you did not provide any specific examples. Without specifics it is hard to advise you on what to do. Please provide more details and then other parents will reply to your post.

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