My 14 year old son makes many promises he does not keep. When he is disciplined for not following through, he blames us rather than himself. He does not seem to learn from his mistakes, even though he gets upset when he makes them. When we ask him why he does not follow through or continues to avoid his responsibilities, he always says "I don't know."
We are concerned that he is not learning to be responsible for himself, even though we continue to give him freedom and opportunities to take control. He fights for control, but does not take it when it is given to him. He has no long-term reaction from having things taken away or being denied privileges.
He gets A- and B+ grades, with no effort, which is also a contentious point, because he does not try his best at much of anything except baseball. He could, should, and used to be an A+ student. He lives very much in his own world, concentrating efforts on what he wants to do, alone or with friends, and cares little for what he "has" to do for us and for school.
He also talks incessantly, to the point where we often have to ask for a break. He is not even remotely secretive, but we are resisting seeing him as lazy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Create positive changes in children or teens by influencing them while they sleep
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