Step Parent of ADHD Child

by Ryan
(Ypsilanti, Mi USA)

My wife's son is 7 and has ADHD. I don't know how to parent him without it turning into an argument. Tonight he felt that o'clock was an unfair bedtime, even though he always goes to bed at this time. So he told me to get out of his face and before I could stand up, he slammed the door on my face.


I have a nice bruise on the side of my face. I gave him one spanking? Was this the right thing to do?

Every time I try to tell him to do something or not to do something it ends this way with me getting punched or hit with something.

My wife tells me that I need to be more patient with him, but I am lost...is there something else I should be doing or stop doing? Any advice would be helpful and greatly appreciated.

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Jul 19, 2010
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ADHD Child Aggression toward Step Father
by: Laura Ramirez

Ryan,

There a few things that you need to understand about your stepson's aggression toward you.

First, it is not okay for him to hit you or throw things at you. Although his low tolerance for frustration may be the reason for his behavior, it should not be used as an excuse for his mistreatment of you or others.

Second, allowing him to mistreat you in this way will enable his behavior, making him more likely to repeat it in the future and even make him feel righteous about it, especially if his mother urges you to be more patient with him in front of him, despite the fact that he has hurt you.

Kids with ADHD need to be dealt with in certain ways because they do have a real disorder. You need a program that you and your wife can follow with agreed upon rules with regard to consequences for behavior. I suggest you take a look at the Total Transformation which will teach you how to help your step son behave without being harsh or punitive.

Whatever you do, take action because this behavior is not okay and will likely get worse with time. Also, you don't want to give your step son the power to destroy your marriage which could happen, especially if you are constantly asked to tolerate his aggression. If you don't already, eventually, you will resent this.

Hope this helps. For more advice, consider my parenting coach program.

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