ADHD Child Aggression toward Step Father by: Laura Ramirez
Ryan,
There a few things that you need to understand about your stepson's aggression toward you.
First, it is not okay for him to hit you or throw things at you. Although his low tolerance for frustration may be the reason for his behavior, it should not be used as an excuse for his mistreatment of you or others.
Second, allowing him to mistreat you in this way will enable his behavior, making him more likely to repeat it in the future and even make him feel righteous about it, especially if his mother urges you to be more patient with him in front of him, despite the fact that he has hurt you.
Kids with ADHD need to be dealt with in certain ways because they do have a real disorder. You need a program that you and your wife can follow with agreed upon rules with regard to consequences for behavior. I suggest you take a look at the Total Transformation which will teach you how to help your step son behave without being harsh or punitive.
Whatever you do, take action because this behavior is not okay and will likely get worse with time. Also, you don't want to give your step son the power to destroy your marriage which could happen, especially if you are constantly asked to tolerate his aggression. If you don't already, eventually, you will resent this.
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