step parent is inappropriate with youngest child

by Heather Thomas
(Boise, Idaho)

I'm not a parent but i am an eighteen year old who has a sister living with our mom and step father. What he has done at this point i dont know but i can say he has smacked my sister's butt, chased her around the house and flicked her breasts. What can i do to get her out of that house and living with me or even our biological father's family. I am afraid for her safety and what lengths my stepfather might go, or even how far my baby sister will go to deal with it or try to get out.


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Heather Thomas

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Feb 24, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Heather,
Have you thought of telling your sister's biological dad? I'm sure that he would like to know and then he can make certain that either your sister is safe or can help to get her into a safe environment. If you think that your sister is in danger of any kind, the right thing is to tell someone who can help.

May 22, 2012
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I agree with Laura Ramirez
by: Anonymous

I agree with the other post completely; take steps until there is resolution. I am sorry your sister is in this situation and yes you are brave for stepping up to this situation. I wish you the best of luck?

May 22, 2012
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Inappropriate Stepdad
by: Laura Ramirez

Heather,

I applaud your courage and willingness to do what's right for your little sister. Your stepfather's behavior does sound inappropriate and someone needs to put a stop to it before it escalates.

Take your mother aside and make sure that she's aware of what's going on. Express your concern for your sister's well-being. Point out that your stepfather's behavior is not only physically abusive but has sexual undertones. This is highly inappropriate ... there is no reason that he should be smacking her butt or touching her breasts. Convey your sense of urgency about the seriousness of this matter and your concern for your sister's safety.

Next go to your father and give him the opportunity to take a stand for his daughter. He needs to be made aware of this behavior, so he can have the opportunity to intervene.

If neither parent is willing to take a stand, you can call social services. Be aware that by taking this step, you may be alienating yourself from your family. Although this will have repercussions for everyone in the family, it could ultimately, save your sister's mental health and even her life.

Good luck. Keep us posted. Kudos to you for being such a concerned and loving sister and having the courage to reach out.


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