Step Daughter and Nagging Ex
I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for 6 months. I met him when his daughter was 13 and she was great. About a year into our relationship, she began to hate me and not speak to me at all. She lives with her mother and her husband.
My husband split from his ex (never married) 13 years ago. The ex will only contact my husband during work hours by phone or text. She will never ring the home phone. Anytime I say something, I get that I am jealous, but I am not, I just want to be involved.
This has been going on for the 3 years and I feel like nothing is ever going to change. My step daughter had a year of not talking to me or my husband and then finally came round and was lovely. I even involved her in our bridal party (which I was advised by her mother that I had to have her as my bridesmaid).
My step daughter gave a speech at the wedding, thanking me for bringing her old dad back. Since the wedding, she has got herself a boyfriend and hardly speaks to my husband. He had invited her for dinner couple of weeks ago and we were expecting her and on that Sunday, she was texting, asking what he was doing. Then that night, his ex phoned and had a go at him.
His daughter has now texted him saying she can't cope with a part time father. She will never contact him and he is always ringing and texting her and asking her to come up, but she always has some excuse.
Even when he is away for work he will contact her so he can see her, but she says she is busy, and now she is blaming him for being a part time dad.
I don't know what to do and it is starting to affect our marriage. I can't cope with the ex always going behind my back. I have spoken to other friends that have step children and the ex's are always ringing the home phone, but not mine, and then my husband and ex make out that I am the one in the wrong. Maybe I am..can some please give me some advise on what to do or how to cope with it all.