Single Parent Dating Tips
Single parent dating can be healthy for the parent and uneventful for the child if you establish certain ground rules. Although you are a single parent, you can attain balance in your life—you can
be an excellent mom or dad, while recognizing your need to have an adult relationship. Of course, the word relationship
is key here—I'm not talking about having a string of them, but about dating one person who brings a sense of care and connection to your life.
Before you can find your prince or princess, you may have to kiss some frogs. For some, single parent dating may mean joining an online dating site or checking through the personals. This is a good way to start thinking long and hard about what qualities you are looking for in a partner. Online Dating
sites allow single parents to meet single parents and find out about their background, desires and life goals without having to go out on a date. This helps decrease the chance of exposing your family to someone with a questionable history. Online dating sites are practical for the single parent family of today.
Single parents may believe they are limited to dating single parents. Although another single parent may understand the challenges you face, there are plenty of adults who will be happy with a ready made family.
Often, single parents meet that special someone when they are least expecting it. If you're looking to date someone with children, go where single parents mingle. For instance, you can meet someone at your child's day care, school functions, children's sport events, the park or the zoo. Pay attention to your child, but keep your eyes, mind and heart open to possibilities.
Below are some single parent dating tips. Consider them and add your own:
- Be cautious about who you date. Avoid bringing someone you are dating casually into your child's life. Ask your date questions that will reveal what he believes about important issues.
This resource explains how to ask questions which reveal character and core beliefs without offending your date
Bottom line: you must know a person before you bring him home. When you do finally introduce your child to the person you are dating, introduce them as a friend. Allow your child and your date to develop their own relationship by engaging in family-type activities. Invite your child to tell you how she or he feels about spending time with this adult as part of regular discussions. Listen carefully to what your child says.
- Think deeply about what you are looking for in a partner. Think longterm. What qualities are important to you? Don't forget your child. What does your child need in a caretaker? What kind of person would your child feel comfortable with? As an adult, what are your life goals? Does this person's goals coincide or conflict with yours?
- Your single parent dating strategy should be to focus on the friendship first. Don't consider a relationship with someone you wouldn't choose as a friend.
- Consider your religious needs. For instance if you are Christian, it may be helpful for you to connect with someone who has similar morals. Try a Christian online dating site.
- As a single parent dating, make your child first. Let this rule be known to the person you are dating. A mature adult will understand that a child's needs are primary. An immature adult will not. This is an early tell that can help you and your child avoid wasted time and disappointment.
- Character is revealed through action. When single parent dating, arrange to meet in public places and carefully consider what your date does and says. Note discrepancies. After you've introduced this person to your child, watch how he or she interacts with your child. Watch facial reactions and body language when your child gets needy or makes requests. It takes time for intentions to be revealed, so take it slow.
Following these single parent dating tips will make for a positive experience for you and your child. Nurture the belief that positive experiences can lead to a happy outcome for all involved.
About the Author: Laura is the author of the award-winning book,
Keepers of the Children: Native American Wisdom and Parenting
. The book is an excellent resource for single parents. It is a combination of ancient native ideas (like stewardship) and cutting edge psychology and teaches parents how to raise children to develop their natural strengths so they will grow up to lead lives that are an expression of those strengths.
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