Single grandparent raising grandson

by CAHix
(North Carolina)

Are there any online support groups or sincere websites/message boards that are geared for grandparents who are now raising their grandchildren? I would so very much like to talk with someone who is maybe going through some of what I am currently.

I am a single mom with 3 grown children. I am also a recovering alcoholic, been sober for 10 years now.

One of my adult children has developed a fondness for booze, risky sexual behaviour and as they put it, "recreational drug use". The situation with my child got serious enough that the police were called multiple times and child protective services.

My 1 child now has multiple various pending charges (possible jail time) and my grandson is "officialy" living with me for now, possibly permanently.

There are a lot of things I would love to talk with someone about who has been there/done that. For now though, how can I get my adult child to admit/see what they have said and done is wrong, unacceptable and just plain illegal? She says she understands she messed up and enough was done wrong that her child can have no unsupervised contact with her (it has to all be done through an agency). But she just doesn't get it!

She (my adult child in trouble) says that everything would have been much better and simpler all ways around if everyone else would have simply minded their own damned business and kept their nose out of hers. She doesn't see herself as having a "serious problem" and I just don't know what else to do to help. There are a series of requirements that she has to fullfill in order to "maybe" get her son back, but she just isn't doing them, its always one excuse after another as to why she isn't. And now she says she just doesn't feel that I am doing anything to help her and she questions my love for her.

I love all of my children and especially my young grandson. I want to help and be there for all of them. I just don't know what else to do.

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