Separation anxiety

I am experiencing depression and anxiety over my 18 year old daughter going to college. I was upset her first year when she went off to college but this is her second and I cant stop thinking and worrying about her emotional and physical well-being.

I am very upset when we speak and she is under so much stress from school. I also am very worried about her personal relationships with friends and boyfriends. I feel I am becoming obsessed with these thoughts. Do you have any suggestions?

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Sep 05, 2011
Mom Separation Anxiety
by: Laura Ramirez

I had to smile when I read your question about "mom separation anxiety" because I just went through it myself and know exactly how you're feeling. Even though I am very close to my son, I have made it through my fears and I have to tell you that while I miss him and look forward to having him home at Thanksgiving, it many ways, it has been very liberating.

It's tough to let go of our children when they leave the nest especially if we have nagging fears about their ability to handle challenges or make the right decisions. For parents who have micromanaged their kids during their teen years (because their kids were defiant, lazy, unmotivated or had other issues), the process is even harder. Eventually, though you learn how to trust the seeds that you've sown, let go of control and allow your child to become a man or woman of his/her own making. You can speed up the process though and make it less painful, which means less suffering for you.

I am happy to help you with the process as a part of my coaching program. Although there will be a charge for this, I am willing to do a 30 minute call at no charge so we can talk and see if working together feels like a good fit. Letting go is a process and helps to do it with someone who has been there/done that. Since this is your second year of anxiety, learning how to let go is essential to your emotional health and your physical health as well.

If you're interested, you can check out the details of the program at parenting coach. Since this is a process, I'll ask you to commit to 4 sessions.

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