Saving My Marriage

by Ruth Larsen
(Madison, WI)

Saving My Marriage

I am a new step mom to 3 kids who hate me. They are 17, 20, and 22. I also have 3 children who are married and love my new husband of 6 months. The trouble is the 20 year old who has almost broken up our marriage by telling lies.

She has since tried to move back in with her mother and stepfather which lasted a week and also with a grandma that lasted 3 days. She does not work or drive and doesn't want to.

Our marriage took her Dad 43 miles away, also her source of money and housing. She also has the other family members against me and my kids. My husband is ready to call it quits.

He just got divorced 3 years ago and tells me a lot of times he loves his ex yet (in a different way). He can't understand why I don't want to hear it. He keeps love letters in his Bible and pictures with him when he travels.

When his children see this, they may think their dad still loves mom and maybe we can break this new relationship up. I am trying to adjust to having our bedroom with my husband's ex wife's pictures in tubs in the closet and I hate it.

His son recently downloaded porn on my computer and my husband doesn't believe it. It seems like it is my children who are bad and his are the God Loving Saints.

There was an issue with the 20 year old and my 21 year old drinking and my husband said his daughter said she was made to drink. Well I got another version of the story from my daughter and I told my daughter just to stay away as she lives in another state. I wonder if I can get past this and work to start saving my marriage.

Did I mention I love my husband very much and he worth saving this marriage for?

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Jan 22, 2009
Saving My Marriage
by: Laura Ramirez

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