Raising my three grandchildren
(Rancho Cordova, California)
I am a mother of four adult children. Two daughters and two Sons.
I am raising my 2nd daughter's children. She has twins (a boy and girl), she also has and older daughter (10) soon be 11 in October this year.
I got custody of these children in October of 2004). I have been taking care of these children for 7 years. The twins are 7 and will 8 in February 2012. The oldest child (girl 10 and will be 11 in October 2011.
I have had two heart surgeries one in Nov 2005 and another March 2006. I still work a full time job.
My concern is the twins behavior and the lack of learning. I know they are smart and can succeed but not putting their mind and ability to learning. They just don't want to do it. They had to repeat the 1st grade.
I speak with them everyday about the importance of learning and the ability to learn. I also tell them that the key to life is their education. Without it, you are going to be lost. I also give them incentives to earn extra things by doing their best and maintaining good behavior at home and school.
Now on to my third grandchild. She is in the 5th grade. I must say, she doing well in school. My area of concern is her is being disobedient. She's lazy in the house and don't want to do anything. I explain to her that she is the oldest and has to do chores and so do the twins. She is very lazy and will not do anything I tell her to do unless I make her. She doesn't have much to do but will not do what she is supposed to do. The twins are the same way.
What I do is make them do it and restrict them from their snacks. I tell them that I can't reward you for bad behavior (which means not listening, not paying attention and not following directions after being told what to do and when to do it. They are not TV watchers so that's not a problem.
I do take them to church and Sunday school. I will take them to church activities.
Any suggestions for me of things that I have not considered.