You need to learn to stand up for yourself. Living up to your marriage vows does not mean that you must tolerate abuse. If this man does not care for you after all you've done and if he does not see you as his partner, then he may not leave you anything in the end.
I would like to teach you how to stand up for yourself, so you can lead a life of dignity and self-respect, even if this requires that you end your marriage. If this sounds good to that healthy part of you that is reaching out for help, then you can find out about my coaching services by going to:
Whatever you decide to do, know that you deserve much better than the life you lead right now, but you have to take responsibility for creating it because no one will do that for you, especially not the people who take advantage of you right now.
I hope this helps.
Dec 20, 2009 Rating
Middle Age Stepchildren by: Rose
Thank you so much for your comments. I have told my husband this over and over, but it always an ugly argument because he's always trying to demean a person with his mouth. I do love him but I am on the verge of giving up and leaving him.
He's 20 years older than me and sickly, but that doesn't mean anything because the vows says in sickness and in health richer or poorer. He has property and he hides money and I really think that he's buying their love by holding the property over their heads. It is really difficult to pay the taxes on the land.
If he doesn't want me to have anything, I suggested that he give it to his 3 sons now. He tells me I don't know anything about business. I have to let him know not to take my meekness for a weakness.
Thanks for listening again.
P.S. I am not even allow to write him a note to tell him how I feel. But his words are abusive so there is no conversation, only when it comes to his sons and their spouses and girlfriend.
Dec 20, 2009 Rating
Your Life Matters by: Anonymous
If it is not ok for you to do the work for them, then you should not! You are the partner of their father but not their maid. Enough is enough! Talk to your partner. Tell him that you love him, but you do not want to do the work for others anymore...
It is your life! You are responsible what are you doing with it...
