Positive Parenting Tips for Caring Parents
Many positive parenting tips are available to help parents cope with the challenges of raising a child from infancy up to adulthood. These resources can be used for addressing any child-rearing concerns. Below are five effective parenting tips with special emphasis on positive techniques to raise healthy and happy kids.Keep a positive attitude yourself.
Kids can pick up negative vibes even if you try your best to hide stress, frustration, and anxiety from them. For your children to develop positive traits, you must strive to be a positive person yourself.
Allow your kids to cheer you up when you get home from a trying work day instead of being short-tempered with them. Keep reminding yourself that your family’s happiness and well-being should be your priority in life. One of the best positive parenting tips you can follow is to block off quality bonding time with your family by switching off your mobile phone, avoiding checking your work email, and basically leaving your job and its attendant stressors where they should be…at the office. Learn to be an active listener to your kids.
Children, especially those of preschool age, are not as expressive as older kids. Take these positive parenting tips on communicating with your kids to heart. Patiently and actively listen to what they have to say rather than responding in monosyllables without attention or interest. Always make eye to eye contact with your child and give him reassuring pats or hugs once in a while.
It is important for children to feel that they are being understood, which paves the way for effective communication skills to develop as they grow up. Bear in mind that having your full attention during a conversation can help them become careful and active listeners, in turn. Encourage your kids to ask questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
Strive to be your child’s first source of information before television, radio, the Internet and other media. Positive parenting tips include encouraging kids to ask questions and explore their curiosity in constructive ways.
Never tell your kids to shut up if a question seems sensitive or age-inappropriate. This will make them feel guilty, resentful, ashamed of themselves, and afraid to ask questions at home or in school.
Be as open and honest with your answers without being crass. Select age-appropriate words to define things so they can be easily understood by your child. If you are not sure about a particular answer, look them up together so you can impart to your child that even adults learn new things everyday.Praise or criticize behavior accordingly, but avoid labeling your kids.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of saying good girl/bad boy! (or vice versa) to a child when they do something that either pleases or displeases you. The unfortunate thing about these knee-jerk reactions to children is that you peg them with labels and overlook that new behaviors can be learned if you take the time to teach them.
It is better to praise or criticize the action rather than attaching positive or negative labels to your child. Instead of asking, Why are you being a bad boy? say, what can you do about the clothes, books, and toys strewn all over your bedroom floor? This helps them think about the situation and come up with an action to create a positive outcome. Be consistent with both disciplinary actions and rewards.
When meting out disciplinary actions, one of the most vital positive parenting tips to keep in mind is to focus on the act that is being called into question, not on your anger or disappointment. Doing the latter can prevent you from responding appropriately to the situation. To prevent this, come up with a disciplinary and reward system that encourages better behavior rather than bribing or scaring your kids to be at their best. Stick to the system as best as you can and your kids will soon learn how to follow and regard rules and regulations as unbending.
Positive parenting tips yield better results than the usual reward-or-punishment child rearing method. Raising a child without using negative techniques can shape him into a caring and compassionate person who can is self-aware, aware of others and can effectively communicate his thoughts and feelings.
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