Parents in Love: How to Reignite Passion & Love in Your Marriage
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Being in love with your spouse or partner and actively nurturing and cultivating your relationship is important not just for you and your spouse, but for your children. Parents sometimes forget that their relationship is the model for their children of what a "normal" adult love relationship looks like. If you have a conflict-ridden relationship in which nothing ever gets resolved, then when your child grows up, he or she will tend to be attracted to a partner who will act out these same issues. And so, the torch of dysfunction is passed.
If you have any doubt about this link, look at your own relationship. If you've ever recognized your mother or father in yourself or if you've ever been in the midst of an argument with your spouse and felt a sense of deja vu, like you were acting out something you'd witnessed before, such as your parents' tired dramas, then you know exactly what I'm talking about.
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Ask yourself these questions:
Were your parents in love? Did you witness them showing tenderness, kindness and patience to each other while you were growing up? Did you see them lingering in each other's company? Were they able to communicate and resolve conflicts or were they barely tolerant, mean or even resentful of each other?
These are good questions to ask yourself because unless you've done some deep therapeutic work, you will tend to interact with your spouse in the same ways that your parents interacted with each other. This is because their interactions became a part of your subconscious programming when you were just a child.
Parents in Love: What I've learned about marriage: You need to have each other's back; you have to be a kind of team going through life. That's beautiful--to have that kind of friendship.—Tom Petty
Can you remember back to when you and your spouse first fell in love? Everything seemed beautiful, fresh and so exciting. While falling in love is easy, staying in love takes skills—skills that no one has ever taught you. This is the reason most marriages end in divorce. Not because the two people involved never really loved each other, but because they lacked the skills to get through the inevitable rough spots and resentments that arise naturally in any marriage. To be parents in love is not easy, but it is possible. My husband and I are a case in point.
Fortunately, it's not too late. These skills can be learned and if you model them in front of your children, then your kids will subconsciously absorb these patterns of interaction and go on to create healthy adult relationships of their own. Learn how to be lovers again for the sake of your marriage, your sanity and for the sake of your kids.
Recently, I was asked to review a relationship program and was so impressed, I decided to share it with you. This program is comprised of a workbook and series of DVDs that will change the way you interact with your spouse. Even if you have a spouse who is unwilling to work on your marriage, by changing yourself, your spouse will change as well. This makes sense when you realize that a relationship is a dynamic.
While watching the program, you will meet six couples with different marital issues. Each couple comes into the office of Dr. Melnick, a renown psychologist and host of the program, with an ongoing complaint. Initially, each couple is resistant and defensive. Some are even hostile. In turn, each explains to Dr. Melnick their side of the conflict they've been having over and over again, in some cases, for years and years.
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You will get to watch and learn as each couple rediscovers the love beneath the pain, conflict and resentment that has driven a wedge between them. The transformations that these couples go through is nothing short of miraculous and will bring you to tears as you start to realize that this is possible for you and your spouse. By watching and listening to Dr. Melnick underscore what happened in the session, you will be moved to transform your relationship with the tools he gives you. As you do, you will once again become parents in love with life, each other and your children.
Parents in love present a united front to their children because they are on the same page about what is best for their kids and because everything they do together stems from love. Children have a way of coming between their parents, particularly if the parents aren't strong in their relationship. If you and your spouse are always fighting about the kids, this program will show you how to rediscover the deep bond between you, so together you can act in the best interest of your kids.
In addition to the 12 DVDs and workbook that come with the program, there is also a bonus DVD called Butterfly Secrets that will show you and your spouse how to rekindle the sensuality in your marriage, so that you can experience each other more fully and joyfully and know once again what it means to linger in the presence of someone you truly cherish. Watching this DVD and doing the exercises together will transform your love for each other.
There is nothing more beautiful than a healthy, loving marriage that grows and deepens over time. My husband and I are fortunate to have such a marriage and we always tell our kids how blessed they are to grow up in a home where their mom and dad truly love each other. One day, our kids will go out into the world and find partners that are able to love them as deeply as their parents loved them and loved each other. Being role models for a healthy, loving relationship is a beautiful gift to give each other and a incredible legacy to leave your children an.
Any couple can enjoy a great marriage if they are willing to learn the skills that will help them go deep into their relationship, past the conflicts, where the love that first attracted you together still resides. Click on parents in love to find out how you can get a copy of this program on a 30-day trial basis.
About the author: Laura Ramirez is the author of the award-winning parenting book, Keepers of the Children: Native American Wisdom and Parenting. The book teaches parents how to raise children to develop their natural strengths so they can grow up to lead lives of meaning, fulfillment and contribution.
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