Parenting Teens

by Jane
(New Zealand)

I understand the setting and need for boundaries, but what do you do when your child does not obey these boundaries? I am a single mum and live on a low budget, so he does not get much pocket money. My 15 year old son and I are often clashing over the "same old, same old" things - curfew time, and usage of dope at my home. So I was wondering how others enforce the boundaries, rather than getting into the useless arguments and shouting that I have trapped myself in.

Comments for Parenting Teens

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

Jan 25, 2012
Boundaries for Teenagers
by: Laura Ramirez

It's important to set boundaries for teenagers about what is and isn't acceptable behavior in your home. Since smoking dope is illegal and adversely affects motivation, this is one behavior that should be off limits. No matter how well you provide for your teen, you are still the wage earner and so you have the right to set the house rules, but do expect teens to challenge them because that is one way that they test the limits ... of course, this doesn't mean that there shouldn't be consequences. If you have difficulty setting and enforcing limits (and don't worry ... many parents do), consider getting a behavioral program to use at home to teach you exactly how to do it. Start by reading the Total Transformation review to see if it's something that might work for you and your son. The key is to lovingly, but firmly set the limits. This means that you can help your teen to change habits that do not serve him without rupturing your relationship.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Parenting Message Boards.