Parenting a step-child that has NO home training
I am a new step-parent of a 10 yr. old that has received NO home training up to this point. This child is very disrespectful and mouthy. His behavior is so bad that it has already caused trouble in my very new marriage of 1 month. I am sincerely wanting to be the positive Motherly influence in this child's life that he has not received from his drug-addicted biological mother. But I am not willing to tolerate his behavior. His Father tells me I should "correct him",yet the Father only attempts to correct him only after I comment on his behavior or if the father sees that the child's behavior is upsetting me.
I continue to tell my Husband that I can not be the primary disciplinarian with this child because I am the step-parent. I don't know what to do, I do know that I don't want this to destroy my relationship with my husband. Any suggestions?