Pacifier Weaning Help

by cheryl

My almost 4 year old son is unbelievably attached to his pacifier...I have tried EVERYTHING I can think and every form of advice.

His dentist said to get it away from him by his 4th birthday because it is affecting his front teeth. It's hard to see him miserable when I take it away, he is extremely strong-willed with a very spirited personality so he screams, just absolutely throws the worst kind of fit and after awhile we give in because your nerves can only take so much!

Any pacifier weaning help or suggestions would be appreciated.

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May 15, 2012
Just went through this
by: Anonymous

Hi there,

I can sympathize with your struggle. I have a four year old I recently went through this with. This is what I did that worked....(as I chuckle a little under my breath.)

I showed her pictures online of people with protruding teeth (buck teeth basically.) Her teeth were already sticking out pretty far and the binky was totally affecting her bite. I did this for a few days, casually when we were on the computer together. I would tell her that she may also have similar problems with her teeth if she doesn't stop the binky like mommy and her dentist have asked her to do. This really made her understand the possible consequences.

Step two was I let her pick out a "prize" anything she wanted within reason.She picked out something she had been wanting for a long time! I sat it up high on top of a cabinet within sight, but not reachable. I told her when she was a big girl and threw away her binkies, she would earn this very special prize. It didn't take long before I was videotaping her throwing all of her binkies in the trash! LOL. She finally did it, and she never has asked for one again! That was about 6 months ago...

Good luck with everything! (By the way her teeth went back VERY quickly) and she has a normal bite now! Yay.

Apr 04, 2010
re: pacifiers
by: Codi Preston Dunn

Awwww...I feel sorry for your 4 year old, I
really really do. It's not really THAT big a deal
if your child has a pacifier. Try to use an orthodontically correct
pacifier. The damage that will be done to his
teeth is actually not that much. It's more
damaging to suck on your thumb than on your passy.
I call them bippies or soothers.

Anyway, here's the thing, I am 33 years old chronologically, but I also suffer from Autism,
and although I am quite articulate, at the same
time, in many ways, at least emotionally and
socially, I act like a 4 1/2 to 5 year old.

Sometimes I don't even notice when I am acting
like one. Not that it's all bad - 4 year olds
are very kind, loving, nonjudgemental, nonracist,
understanding, and some are actually quite sharing. Most of my friends are preschoolers, toddlers, or elderly people over age 50-55.

I have very few friends my age. I enjoy children's
TV shows, like Teletubbies, Barney, Care Bears,
Wimzie's House, Arthur, and so forth. I have always LOVED Teletubbies from day one. My
point is, guess what? I STILL HAVE A PACIFIER
MYSELF!! Actually I have several! I have used a pacifier for
decades, on and off, and took it to college with
me. All
I can say is that I have tried to quit myself
more than 3 times, and every time I tried, I went back to sucking the bippy like a pacifier junkie
who had fallen off the wagon!! LOL. So, I feel
very sorry for your 4 year old, but let him
keep it. I'm sure he will throw it away when he
is ready. I've seen 4 year olds in supermarkets
with passies.

Also, you are a very nice parent to take his feelings into consideration. Of course, I'm
not surprised since you are from Georgia.
Southerners are so understanding and nice to me,
I guess it's southern hospitality! I'm from
San Jose, California, but I am moving to western
North Carolina in a very short time. The people
there are so nice to me.

Take care.

Warm regards
Preston (soon to move to Cullowhee, North Carolina)

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