My mom always told me to fight back. No matter what, she said that if they hit me, always hold my pencil in my hand, and she said that if they jump, and try to hit me, you best believe that I'm going to start stabbing. Always teach a CHILD to stand up for them self.
Mar 09, 2008 Rating
Give him words and hold other children accountable. by: Daniel Scott
I would role play and give your child language to use to express himself instead of crying. "I don't like that", "That hurts my feelings", "STOP THAT", etc.
I would have the children talk to each other when you break up a fight. I'd have your son tell the child the words you practiced before. It hurts me when you hit me. I would also show the other child the results of his actions ..."you made him cry....his skin is red where you scratched him, that must hurt". Connect the other child to the effects of their action. I think removing a child or a simple "I'm sorry" lets them off the hook.
I would also ask the other parents to hold their children accountable. They need to ask "Are you ok?" and "What will make you feel better?" If they hit your son, have them take him to the kitchen to get him ice or a band aid, or whatever it is that will make him feel better.
I would also watch closely to see what triggers the aggression. If there is a consistent pattern that you can predict, try to change things before they get out of hand.
