Oppositional Defiant Child

by Daryl
(Madison, WI)

One year ago, my eleven-year son was diagnosed as an oppositional defiant child. At the time, therapy was recommended, so my husband and I took our son in for about ten visits. Supposedly, the therapy was geared to kids with oppositional defiant disorder. Problem is the therapy hasn't really changed our son's behavior at home and after a recent blowout with the therapist, my son simply refuses to go back and see him.

Truth be told, I was uncomfortable with therapy because I didn't like a third party prying into our private lives, even though he was trying to help.

I love my son, but I am tired of our home life being destroyed by his chronic disrespect, anger and defiance. This attitude is also getting him into trouble at school and of course, his grades are horrible.

I don't want to give up on my son, but I'm exhausted and so is my husband.

If therapy didn't work, what's next? I truly am afraid for my son's future. No one is going to want to deal with him.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Dec 11, 2008
Re: Oppositional Defiant Child
by: Laura Ramirez

Hi Daryl,

You are right to be concerned about your son. I'm also concerned that your son had a "blowout" with his therapist. The therapist should have shown more self control.

What I suggest is that you bring the therapy home. You can do this by getting a copy of a behavioral program that has been recommended to me by a number of parents who were in situations similar to yours. It's a series of CDs and a workbook that will teach you simple techniques for turning around your son's behavior.

Because so many parents have written in about this program, I have recently published a review of it. Read my review here. The program it is well put together, easily understandable and gives parents the tools to change their kids' behavior and transform their lives.

The program was developed by a therapist who has helped countless angry, defiant kids turn their lives around. It has strategies that work. Best of all, you don't have to go outside the family to help your son make changes in his behavior.

I believe that you can still get the program on a 30-day trial basis, so you'll have a chance to go through it and see if you think it is right for you and your son.

Although your son may seem mean or even cruel, know that on the inside, he is suffering. No one who treats others poorly or disrespectfully could possibly be happy. This is why it's crucial that you get help.

After you get the behavioral program for kids with ODD and start using it, please write me to share how it's going.

You're a good parent and I'm glad to see that you're fighting for your son. Keep up the good work.

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