Need some help...new step-mom to a teenage boy

I'm newly a step mom to a wonderful 17 year old male. He just started college last fall and will be living with me and my husband (his pop) during the summer. He's very smart and I love him like he is my own. However...I find that very often he thinks I will do whatever he wants me to do for him because he knows I want to be a part of his life and want to do things for him.


For example. Today, he calls me after he gets done with work. He and his friend are hanging out. His friends family lives about a 1 1/2 hour drive away from here. My step son called me so his friend could ask me a question.

The question was, could I give him a ride to his family's house so he can be there by 6 pm. Right now, it's two hours from the time he wants to get there. My husband took the car to work and if I said yes, I'd have to borrow a vehicle of my mom's.

I've met this friend of my step-son's twice. I don't feel comfortable with him putting me on the spot, so his friend could ask me that question...I also don't know how to handle a situation like this.

I told him no. That Nathan had my vehicle at work and I wasn't going to borrow my mom's vehicle to drive him to his parent's house.

Did I do the right thing?

I physically can't have kids of my own, even though I really wanted to, so becoming a step-parent of a teen just has been a bit difficult.

If you have any suggestions I'd greatly appreciate it.

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