Need advise - my step daughter is ruining my relationship

by NeedAdvice

I've been reading a lot of posts on this website and I see that I am not alone in my struggle. So here is my situation - I've been living with my boyfriend for about a year now and his 21 year old daughter is living with us.

The kicker - my boyfriend works offshore. He works 28 (sometimes 56 days in a row) and is home 14 days. His daughter is a complete slob. I will give her credit that she is trying to get her GED by going to night school two nights a week for two hours and is working part time. However, she expects me to be her personal taxi. She does not help out around the house at all - her room actually smells and she has yet to save up any money for her driving school. She's been working for almost a year and has to pay absolutely no bills - so what is she doing with her money???

Also, recently $400 of my money came up missing. The only other person who knew I kept it in my lock box was her. Her dad of course thinks it was the apartment maintenance man - but why wouldn't they have taken the entire $750????

Every time I mention anything to him about his daughter he gets very defensive and angry. The only time we ever fight is about her and I'm tired of it. He has no idea what I deal with while he is away as she is completely different when he is home. She has no ambition to do anything with her life. She sleeps all day and doesn't seem to want to move out or better her life at all.

Uggggg...I'm so discouraged and really feel like I'm stuck. Is she going to stay forever???

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Now she is not serious about her life, definitely be serious in her life in future. Always encourage her to do something.

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Mar 22, 2015
Step Daughter Has No Ambition
by: Laura

Rather than complaining about your step daughter (which I completely understand), try talking to your husband in a calm way, but do this when he is home so you can look at him eye to eye. Explain to him that your role as parents is to help his daughter grow up and become responsible, so she can become independent and support herself and create a good life for herself.

Brainstorm ways that you can help her become more responsible one step at a time.

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