Mother Ready to Give Up
by ann
Mother Ready to Give Up I have been married for 8 years and have a son from a previous marriage. My son was 7 at the time. My husband and my son never got along and I think I dealt with it wrong, I tended to side with my husband to avoid conflict. After being blamed for everything, my son kept to himself. He became lazy, you always had to remind him of his chores, his head was always buried in a book or playing games, and my husband didn't like that. He started insulting and degrading him even in front of the other kids. As he got older, I guess my son started tuning him out. He was never allowed to watch television or go on the pc unless for homework. In my eyes, my child is growing up without a childhood. Because of these restrictions, my son would steal chances when we were not around, but somehow my husband always found out. His nephews would sell him out although they sometimes played games together. My husband said if my son is not consistent with his chores without having to remind him, he'll continue to have no privileges in HIS house. My son prefers to adopt a don't-care attitude and continues to take his chances when we're not around. I have talked to my son, but it seems as if he has also given up, no matter what he does it is never right, so why bother. I have recently read some writing he has done and it was rather negative on life itself, and it got me worried, so I am arranging to talk to a school counselor to see if I should be concerned. I feel so alone in this because I can't talk to my husband. He gets angry and says I have my son the way he is. Maybe I do, I don't know, but my husband refuses to see any other side. I think before he turns 18, he will want him out. I can't rely on my ex because he never supported him and he is into drugs, otherwise I would have sent him a long time ago. I'm not sure I explained myself all that well, but I'm trying, and it is very depressing coming home from work just to hear a set of complaints. I no longer know what to do and frankly I have lost hope in this situation. Any thoughts would be nice, even if it is to say it was my fault. Click here to read or post comments. |
