Mom's In Iraq

Our daughter is in the army and currently deployed in Iraq-she's only been gone 3 weeks. She has 2 beautiful children (20 months and 6 months) that have moved in with us while she is away. So not only is mommy gone, they are in a new home, and they have been enrolled in daycare for the first time as daddy is now working 2 jobs.


My question is what can we do, outside of showering them with love, to make these transitions easier? Daddy takes them to daycare-we pick them up as he now works nights. Our evenings are usually fun times playing, reading books, going for walks, baths..... and then all hell breaks loose at bedtime. I think this is when it all hits home for them and I don't know what to do to make it better. There is usually about 45 minutes of full on SCREAMING before they fall asleep. We've tried rocking, walking, lullabies, etc all to no avail. They are literally inconsolable and it is breaking my heart.

Any suggestions???

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Mar 05, 2011
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Help While Deployed
by: Anonymous

Hi! Are you in phone or internet contact with your daughter while she is serving in Irag? Is there any way the children could say good night to "mommy" that way? Or maybe if mommy or daddy is able to sing some nursery rythmes or read a few bedtimes stories and record it, then the children could hear their parents voices as they go to sleep? There should also be some type of support group stateside from your daughters base that helps children adjust to their parents being deployed. I wish you all the best of luck and KUDOS to you both for being able to step up and be there for your grandchildren.

Mar 04, 2011
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Mom's in Iraq
by: Anonymous

Laura-

Thank you so much for the ideas and the kind words.

Have a great weekend!
MJ

Mar 04, 2011
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Mother is in Iraq
by: Laura Ramirez

It sounds to me like you're doing all you can to help your grandchildren while their mother is in Iraq. I'm sure it breaks your heart to hear them cry and scream at night because they miss her. This reveals how desperately they miss her.

Perhaps, you can ask your daughter to record an mp3 of her telling them a bedtime story or singing a song that she used to sing to comfort them. She could send this to you via email and you could download it and play it to them every night before bed time.

If access to technology is an issue for your daughter, you could also ask her to write them letters and read them each night and sending them to sleep, dreaming of their mom's return.

I want to acknowledge you for what a caring, attentive grandmother you are. You are making the best of a tough situation. I hope this helps.

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