A 39 yr old married man has been overly nice (gave my daughter a computer) and involved in her life (calling, emailing and IMing her). He's NOT my boyfriend. When I questioned his motives, he was very defensive. I suggested boundaries, like not discussing certain topics w/my daughter, only communicating once/week and in my presence. He cut back & won my confidence.
Then recently I saw them "cuddling". My daughter doesn't think anything is wrong w/this picture. I flat out told him to stay away from her, no communication at all, but she's 19 and she tells me I can't stop her.
What can I do? I believe this man intent is to harm my daughter, emotional and maybe physically (sexually), she is a virgin and he knows that because they've talked about subjects that I consider inappropriate w/anyone other than your parents or boyfriend.
I have her in counseling, hoping that will help - she's only been in for 1 wk now. I'm very concerned, she and I have always been extremely close, but she's not listening to a word I say now. She thinks I'm over-reacting.
How do I get her to see what I see? I'm so afraid of losing my daughter in this process.