Lazy Step Son
I have question about my soon to be step son. He is 23 lives in our basement he doesn't work does nothing around the house not even clean up after himself. I do the laundry housekeeping cooking he basically sleeps all day and stays up all night playing video games he showers once a week and makes no effort to do anything.
I have told his dad that he (stepson) should get a job or at least do things around the house but his dad says I am picking on him. This man/boy doesn't even drive more that 5 miles and will not drive on the highway. He has no friends other than the online people he plays video games with at night.
His dad made the statement that he would drive him to McDonalds and watch him fill out the application. That is crazy...he is 23 not mentally challenged or any health issues.
I have a 11 year old daughter that gets the pleasure of seeing all this. If she wants extra allowance we tell her she has to do extra chores yet the man/child just gets money handed to him by his dad. I am about to give up on the whole situation.
I can't reason with dad and it sends a bad message to my daughter. We argue about it a lot and then his ex wife puts her two cents in also. I asked his dad to tell him to either be a productive part of the family doing chores around the house and/or get a job.
Did I do the right thing? I am not saying he needs to move out, I just want him to grow up and act his age. (Not only does he stay in the basement he takes his meals down there and then brings his dirty plates up and puts them in the sink not in the dishwasher.)
Sorry I know I am complaining but I really don't know how to handle this situation. Thank you for any comments.