This is the best book on parenting I have read (and believe me, I've read more than the average parent.) This book has given me the tools to overcome the negative stuff from my childhood and truly be present for my kids. I love the suggestions in the book and I've used the author's ideas to find my own personal style. My kids are 16 and 13 now and we are very close and connected and I attribute this mainly to the wisdom I've implemented from this book.