I feel like my son has given up .. and I am financially drained

by Lisa Stewart
(Rochester NY )

Muy son is 22 years old. He has been out of school for over 4 years now. he has worked here and there. I know times are tough but I see other children/adults getting part-time jobs. Why does it seem that he can't find one. I am not asking for him to make tons of money and he can live with me. I will provide, food and shelter, I also pay for his health insurance.

Some days I want him out of the house. He steals, he lies... The things he steals are so stupid. Soda I have asked him not to drink or stupid things.

He is a smoker, So now I have been supporting his habit. The money I spend on this is my extra money for myself. I have been a single mom since he was one year old. I am used to doing things on my own. His grand parents help him out also.

He just went to the pysch ward this Feb because he wanted to just die. This is so hard compared to raising him. I do not know what to do.

I don't feel he really looks for a job. He sits home he does some chores around the house but even that he does with reluctance or doesn't follow through.

He just completed a program called ROARG.org to help them get a trade. This was to help 2000 people in our area get jobs. NO one that completed the program is working .. How did this help. It gave him good work ethic and some motivation and excitement .. But no work. So now what? He is lost and I am frustrated...

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Aug 25, 2012
Give him to God.
by: Anonymous

I feel for you. I think the best place for your son is church. Kick him out and set him up at the mission. It gives them a structure. I volunteer at a place called "Set Free Ministries". It gives the guys a place to live in exchange for work. They have to be committed for one year. They save their money and in the end, if they have progressed, they have a nice chunk of change and a fresh start on life. Blessings from Erik.

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