How to Help My Daughter Accept My Boyfriend

I've been dating someone for almost a year and have very very slowly introduced my 8 yr old daughter to him. We are now at the stage where she understands that we are a couple but is torn between liking him and feeling resentment toward him.

My partner is willing to try anything to build a relationship with her. He is patient as well. I'm just looking for some advice on how we should tackle her mood swings and periods of non communication, attitude and frustration.

She has become very protective of her father and wants to spend more time with him. I don't want to lose the close bond we've always had. I don't want her to become distant or withdrawn from me. Can someone please help?

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Jan 02, 2017
Same Concern NEW
by: Anonymous

I am in a similar situation but I don't know if the original poster will ever see this comment.
My 10 year old has always liked my boyfriend. In fact, he was in my circle of friends for a few years before we started dating, and she has always liked him.
Now that we are officially a couple, she still likes him and enjoys when he's around, but she admitted that she's uncomfortable about sharing me.
I had to remind her of something I've told her a few times in the past: Adults usually need a partner. I explained that I take care of her, but I also need someone to take care of me. Every person needs that, and it won't change the time we have together and it won't change how much I love her.
She understands it and I just think that this reaction is similar to what they'd feel if a new child were born. It's more of an uncertainty about how the new person will affect their life and what they are accustomed to.
I've come to the conclusion that she will adjust and in the meantime, he is still wonderful and a peaceful presence in our lives.

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