Help! Step daughter is the queen.

by Chris
(Boise, ID)

My step daughter was quiet in the beginning. She seemed to be sweet, she loves to read, and was very helpful. Recently she has turned into the devil's child. I am not sure how this happened. She has completely turned the in-laws into out-laws and they are all taking her side.

They don't want me on their property or anywhere near them because of stories she has be telling them. None are true because she doesn't live with me. She lives with her grandmother.

Her dad tells me that she was abused as a young child and I should go easy on her and cater to her needs, because she is just a "little girl", I just got into an argument with him a few minutes ago about her being 16 years old and a growing woman.

I fear that our relationship is strained and he can't see her ways, the in-laws have even threatened him about being with me against her wishes. I am worried and don't know what to do. I am feeling stressed and I am 25 weeks pregnant.

We had re-united at the end of 2007 after being apart for 18 years. We have an 18 year old daughter who resents her half-sister for all that is happening. I think we are headed for a disaster.

I asked him what we should do and his answer is always the same thing, "leave her alone and let her blow steam it will all blow over in the end." I feel resentful towards her and can't even look at her without feeling some type of sick feeling. What should I do? I am feeling the need to run, and run fast and far from this craziness. I love him dearly but I can't stand the daughter.

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