hi i understand, i have been married 5 years to my new husband, i have three beatifull daughters very strong willed - they have all had rebellious times especially against my husband, all been very cruel at different times.
my youngest 16 year old daughter has been very cruel & difficult - it has really taken a terrible toll on our marriage and our health - i dont know if we will make it, i really hope we do, i am so torn, my children or my husband - dont get me wrong , they are all acting badley , so if you find the answer please let me know. good luck desperate mum.
Dec 17, 2009 Rating
Divorce him by: Anonymous
Leave. Your children are your priority and they shouldn't have to be unhappy, so just YOU can be happy. How selfish can you be? You brought them into this world and it is your job to make sure they are comfortable and happy. They come before you and certainly before a man. Divorce him.
Nov 21, 2009 Rating
Daughter Hates My Boyfriend by: Anonymous
Daughter Hates My Boyfriend
My daughter is 21 and hates my partner of 7 years. She says he looks at her and makes her feel uncomfortable. She loves her real dad and wishes we were together still. She only talks to my partner when she has to.
My two sons get on ok with him. He never interferes with their lives or hers. He treats me nicer than any man in my life. I ask if he ever touched or said anything out of order she said no and she doesn't lie. Generally she seems very happy.
Where do I go from here as my kids will always come first. Do I hang in there or leave.
Oct 27, 2009 Rating
RE: Help - My daughter hates my husband by: Anonymous
It is not your daughters loss. IT IS YOUR LOSS BECAUSE YOU WILL LOSE HER. You need to divorce him. Your children come first. PERIOD. For those people who say that you are letting your children control you....f*** them! Your obligation is to your children, not him. Get rid of him or you will lose you daughter(s) forever.
Feb 05, 2009 Rating
Daughter Hates Stepfather by: Laura Ramirez
Your daughter may hate her stepfather because she is projecting her feelings onto him. This anger may be anger that she really feels toward her natural father, but is unable to express because they see each other so rarely.
Whatever the case, your new husband has endured her disrespect for almost 3 years, so it's time to put a stop to her behavior. If you don't, her treatment of him will only grow worse, her younger sister will start to follow her lead and this could drive a wedge between you and your husband.
Spend one-on-one time with your daughter to help her see that you are still there for her.
Get a copy of this behavioral program. It will teach you how to put a stop to disrespectful behavior in your household. It will also show you how to help your daughter become less rigid which is crucial to her emotional health.
By following the simple steps in this program, you will show your kids the limits of acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Everyone in your household will be happier and better off for it.
If you feel bad or guilty about your divorce and are enabling your children's behavior because of it, please stop because you are not serving your children's best interests. Kids are much more resilient than we give them credit for. Trust in your children's ability to heal and move on.
Your kids have a good man for a stepfather??one who has been willing to stand by them in spite of all the attitude. Be sure to honor your husband and tell him how fortunate you feel to have such an understanding man for a partner.
Feb 05, 2009 Rating
Controlling by: SwordmanJr
I can't say that I know your daughter well enough to state this emphatically, but it sounds to me like she's using all this as a means of controlling you, her mother. Many children whose father is no longer in the home try this common ploy to gain what they want, which is exclusive domination of your affections and energies. Remember.......children were born in sin just like all the rest of us.
All you can do is love her irrespective of her desires to manipulate and control the family environment. At worst, she will more than likely look back on these days, months, or even years, and understand that she was selfish and arrogant, and that she had wasted so much time on hate as a tool to gain her own selfish desires when she could have enjoyed being a part of something so meaningful.
