Hating My Step Son

by Wicked Step Mom
(Louisiana)

I married into a ready made situation with my much younger husband and his 2 year old son. I was happy with it being that he had sole physical custody of my stepson and no dealings with the EX and I didn't have any children of my own.

I was 38 when I found out that I was expecting my first baby. I had waited a long time, as I had trouble in the past and was very excited. My feelings did a 180 and now I am feeling hatred towards my stepson who is now 5.

He visits often with his grandmother (my in-law) and every other weekend with his mom. Every time he returns, its like mahem in the household. I feel like he is mean towards our daughter, his sister. My feelings are just that I don't like him since my daughter is born.

Is this normal? I am so overprotective of her and don't want anyone hurting her. I also feel that my husband feels sorry for his son because the mother abandoned him.

When my step son returns from the grandparent's house or from a weekend at his mom's, I dread it. My stomach actually gets nervous. I just don't feel like I want him there, intruding on my family with me my husband and our daughter.

Do you think that I need counseling? Is this something that will get better as he gets older? I hope for some answers and great advise.