Grounding your children
my question is: what would you have done?
Story - im a single mother(37), and I have Two teenage sons, One 15 the other is 17. I let my children curse, as I know they do at that age, AS LONG as they don't curse AT me. anyway, I just grounded both my sons for 2 & 3 weeks. Here is what happened:
I came home from work around 10pm (I had a late shift; then had a work party to go to) when I came home I found my sons having a party. I wouldn't have cared if when I walked in the house wasn't a disaster. I found my 15 year old and asked him calmly to have everyone leave, after about 20 minutes everyone was finally gone and while I was cleaning up I finally found my 17 year old walking in the back door drunk as a skunk and I asked him where he got this liquor from & he told me that it was none of my f-ing business.
Well I decided that I was kind of aggravated & just ignored him and went to sleep. when I woke up I told both of them that they were going to fix up the rest of the house seeing that they made this mess in the first place. I went out to buy some food and when I came back they were both drinking some left over alcohol from the night before (I do NOT allow them to drink!)
I was mad and told them they were grounded for 2 weeks, when I told them that, the 17 year old smacked me in my face (I'm not talking about a slap- it was like a backhand!) so I told him he was grounded for another week.
This happened yesterday and today my 15 year old kept apologizing and tried to get out of being grounded. (he won't) & my 17 year old apologized for hitting me when I walked in his room this morning to put some things in his room. But besides that he hasn't come out all day.
the point of this is, am I being to mean? is 2 weeks too much? & 3 weeks? or is it the right amount of time? I only grounded them around once or twice in the past so I don't really know.. :/ thanks in advance!