Fear of Spiders - Help Your Child Get Over a Spider Phobia
Addressing your child's fear of spiders is important because doing so, helps him understand how to cope with fear in general. It also prevents it from developing into a paralyzing phobia which can plague the child throughout his life. Following are eight important tips for teachers and parents:
1. First and foremost, watch your reactions. If you have a fear of spiders, then your children might adopt your fear. Many children are deathly afraid of spiders because they've learned this reaction from their parents. If you suffer from arachnophobia, click on The Linden Method
to get the help you need. You will always have to share your world with spiders.
Spiders have a purpose on this planet and while you can't change the fact that they exist or prevent them from crawling by your corner of the world, you can change your response to them. There are many virtual reality therapists, who can help you overcome a fear of spiders through a behavioral technique called systematic desensitization.
2. Teach your children that all creatures have a purpose, including spiders. (If your children can't even look at photos of spiders without becoming fearful, I suggest administering some KOK Kiddie Calmer
, a natural, holistic supplement that will calm your child while he learns.) Spiders help keep our planet from being overpopulated with bugs. The venom from poisonous spiders provides us with medical cures for certain diseases. Teaching your children that every creature has a purpose will help create respect, which is important, especially when encountering venomous spiders. Having respect for venomous spiders will help children keep their distance.
3. Do research on the venomous spiders in your area. Involve your children in this research and talk about what's real. Knowing the facts can help quell an unrealistic fear of spiders and uncover a sense of fascination. Children are often afraid of spiders because cartoons or movies have exaggerated their danger. When you view a television show or movie that exaggerates the danger of spiders, discuss how the media often cartoonizes other creatures to heighten drama, thereby creating fear. For instance, children commonly have a fear of black widows because they're venomous. While this is a positive fear that will help them keep a respectful distance from a spider that delivers a neurotoxic bite, many children falsely believe that spiders will search them out or chase them down. This is why it's important to read books on spiders that reveal the facts of their behavior. Black widow spiders are extremely shy and will withdraw, rather than bite, unless they feel threatened or the need to protect their eggs.
4. Equally important is learning to identify non-poisonous spiders, so your child can relax in the comfort of knowing that the spider on the wall is harmless. Let your children know that most spiders' fangs are too tiny to bite through a person's skin. When you discover a spider in the house, make it a family game to see who can give the spider's proper name. Being able to identify which spiders in your area are poisonous is a big step in quelling a fear of spiders.
5. Teach children that although some spiders bite to protect themselves, they eat bugs, not humans. Help your child see that a spider's first line of defense is to crawl away. In other words, spiders are afraid of us. Create perspective by making comparisons. Without a trace of mockery or judgment, point out to your child that the spider she's afraid of is no bigger than her pinky finger. If you can get her to laugh at the silliness of being afraid of a tiny spider, she'll experience less fear next time she encounters one that is harmless. Please tease with great sensitivity: you should never belittle your children's fears. If you don't get the beginnings of a smile, then stop. When all else fails, point out that your child has longer legs and can run much faster than a spider.
6. If a child is frightened of a spider in her room, capture the spider and release it outside. Have your child participate in the removal of the spider, even if it is only to run and get a glass or to open the door when you take the spider outside. Catching and releasing a spider, rather than killing it reaffirms that spiders have a purpose and teaches respect for other forms of life. Try to involve your child more and more in each instance of capture and release, so that ultimately, she can perform the job all by herself. The only exception to this rule is the capture and removal of venomous spiders. At my house, my children report each black widow sighting and I take care of the removal. Every time my children spot one, I commend them with a high-five and exclamation of, "Good eye!"
7. Left untended, a simple fear of spiders can turn into a lifelong case of arachnophobia. Phobias are fears that are disabling. Those with spider phobias plan their entire lives around avoidance of the thing they fear. This is why it's crucial for you to pay attention to your children's fear of spiders.
8. If your child has experienced a traumatic encounter with a spider, administer a dose of Mom's Magic Trauma Sprinkles
which is a 100% natural remedy for shock, trauma or distress. Just sprinkle a few granules on his tongue and he will be calmed almost instantly.
To help him get over this experience, the next time you have a spider in your house, sprinkle the granules on your child's tongue to calm him and then invite him to help you remove the spider from the house. Keep doing this until he overcomes his fear. Many positive experiences will help a child vanquish fear. In fact, Mom's Magic Trauma Sprinkles is a good product to have on hand for your family medicine chest.
If your child continues to get hysterical around spiders consult with a phobia specialist who can help your child get over his fear of spiders.
If you liked this article, please add it to your social bookmarks:
To subscribe to Family Matters! Parenting Magazine, type in your name and email address below or send a blank email to Subscribe to Family Matters!
Note: Subscribers who are not willing to give their first and last name will be removed from our list.
What to Do for a Spider Bite
Fear of Spiders - Arachnophobia
Feel free to link to this article from your web site, blog or forum.Insights into the Core Issues Today's Parents Face
Build Your Own Web Business