How to Discipline Kid Without Being Harsh or Punitive
Discipline Kid: Stop Back Talk, Whining, Defiance and Disrepect
by Laura Ramirez
Author of the award-winning parenting book, Keepers of the Children
Publisher of Family Matters Parenting Magazine
If you are tired of living in a home that is ruled by your kid's defiance, disrespect, back talk, lying or aggression, then make sure to read this article in it's entirety. As the author of an award-winning parenting book and the webmaster of this site, I know that parents are overwhelmed and frightened by the behavior problems of their kids. In addition to telling you about a solution that I highly recommend, I will summarize the results that other parents have had with this program.
I wrote this article in response to my parents who wrote me, pleading for a solution to their kids' behavioral problems. Although they love their kids, they didn't like their behavior and were increasingly frightened about how this behavior might be perceived and punished by authorities outside the home.
First, it's important to know that this system is for parents of children (ages 6-17) who show any or all of the following behaviors:
- constantly fighting
- lying without remorse
- disrespectful to parents, peers and teachers
- argues about everything
- indifferent or rebellious when privileges are taken away
- beginning to show criminal tendencies
- using alcohol or drugs
- threatens siblings or parents with violence
If your child shows one or more of the behaviors above, then you'll want to read my review of the Total Transformation which is the at-home program that I recommend for two reasons:
1) it's worked for so many of the parents that have written in (and hundreds of thousands of parents in the U.S. and Canada) and
2) I've reviewed it thoroughly and can see how it transforms behavior without being harsh or punitive.
But first, let's create a vision of how things could be in your home:
Can you imagine how much better your life would be ... how much happier your child would be, if you could find a way to help your child be honest, caring, respectful and cooperative? Can you imagine how different your child would be if he felt good about himself, so much that he would naturally be kind, generous and respectful of others?
This is a loving vision and I'm here to tell you that the Total Transformation parenting program can make it possible.
How Does the Total Transformation Work to Discipline Kid:
The program features an easy-to-follow "tough love" approach to teach parents the skills to turn around their kid's behavior and restore serenity and happiness to the home. Although you may not be a believer in tough love, this is the ONLY technique that has been proven to work with children who are argumentative, defiant and are beginning to exhibit antisocial behavior. If you don't want this behavior to grow worse with time (and there's no doubt that it will, especially as your kid grows bigger and stronger), then read on.
First, the facts:
The program comes with a workbook and CD's that take you step by step through the process of making permanent changes in your child's behavior.
The program was developed by James Lehman who has been a therapist for 30 years and has transformed the lives of countless kids with a specific process that he developed. This man knows his stuff, but best of all, he knows how to teach parents the skills they need to permanently transform their children's behavior.
In answer to the question, Does the Total Transformation Work:
The answer is YES: Not only does it work, I've received many emails from parents who want to thank me for my recommendation. Of course, like anything, you have to learn and practice the techniques that Lehman teaches. These simple, but effective techniques will teach you how to treat your child or teen in such a way that he will start to willingly do what is expected of him. (Yes, I used the word "willingly"!)
As he starts to do the right things, he will feel better about himself and then, he will want to continue these new behaviors. This is where the magic happens! (Note: although I'm using the word "he," this program works just as well for defiant girls.) This is what creates the transformation!
You'll want to keep the program on your book shelf because it's so full of valuable information and simple techniques, you will want to refer back to it over and over. Think of it as an investment in your family's emotional well-being.
Don't be like the countless parents who underline phrases in parenting books, but fail to use the information to change their lives.
Changes only happen when you take action. Get the Total Transformation
The Total Transformation makes changing easy because it breaks down the process step-by-step. Plus, if you have any questions, they provide a toll free number where you can call in and get support from trained professionals.
The Total Transformation is a resource that you can turn to again and again.
As someone with a degree in psychology who has worked with children for over two decades and counseled countless parents whose children were so out of control that their family life felt hopeless and their marriages were on the rocks, I can tell you that this program WILL WORK for you as long as you are willing to commit yourself to following the simple steps. Think of it this way: your child's future depends on it.
Besides, the program is easy to follow because it makes perfect sense. This is why I am so excited that I can share this Total Transformation review with you and other parents. The program provides hope, where previously there was none. Please read on.
More Important Facts:
If you're on the fence about this, let me tell you why you should at least give the program a try. The biggest reason is that if your child is angry or defiant as a child, imagine what he is going to be like as an out-of-control teenager, especially when he is bigger and stronger than you.
Or if your child is a teenager now, imagine what he is going to be like as an adult if you don't help him or her overcome these issues now. I mean, do you really think that his boss is going to want to help him if he behaves at work the way he does at home? If your grown child can't hold down a job, then he might never move out. (I get countless letters from these desperate parents and step parents, begging me to tell them what to do.)
No parent, no matter how loving, wants to have their children living at home when they're adults, especially if they don't know how to make an honest living in the world.
If your child has been diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, you were probably informed that ODD can be a precursor to a lifetime of criminal behavior. Do you really want to be a parent who has to bail their kid out of jail?
Angry kids grow into angry teenagers who gravitate toward other angry teens and commit acts of violence to show their disrespect for life and outright defiance to the world. These teens grow into angry adults. This is not a problem that resolves itself.
When a parent writes me to complain about their child's angry or violent behavior, I don't refer them to a therapist, but to my Total Transformation review. This is how much confidence I have in the program.
Here's what you'll get:
- 7 CDs
- Here's an example of what you'll learn on the first CD, entitled, Why Does My Child Act This Way?
- Why your child's behavior is not your fault
- 16 causes of bad behavior and how they are hurting your family
- Profile that will hep you identify the root cause of your child's behavior
- 116-Page Workbook with pretests for each section so you can test what you've learned
- DVD of a Parent Workshop
- Jumpstart DVD with testimonials
I wrote this Total Transformation review along with my husband, who has been a therapist for over 30 years (just like James Lehman). After listening to the entire program, we both agreed that it gives parents concrete tools that they can use right away to help their children change their behavior.
If you live in a home where you're constantly worrying about what is going to set your children off or what they're going to do next, then you'll recognize the value of this.
Get your copy of James Lehman Total Transformation
But don't just take my word for it, here are Total Transformation Reviews submitted by parents, stepparents and grandparents:
"MY TOTAL TRANSFORMATION REVIEW: IT'S LIFE-CHANGING!"
"Things are just wonderful now. And things were not headed in a good direction trying to blend our family together. I feel like James Lehman saved my family."
"There's so much more respect and communication between my husband and my son and between my son and I. I'm amazed at the results.
~ Katherine McNabb
Total Transformation Review:
"YOU HAVE REALLY TURNED MY KID AROUND”
"My 8-year-old son was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD. He was stealing, lying and had temper tantrums when he didn't get his own way. You have really turned my kid around. Within the first month we noticed a major change.* All of a sudden, there was this total Transformation®. He realized this behavior wasn't worth it anymore. Now he pretty much has a good day every day. He does his work. He gets full privileges at home. I encourage other parents to try it because it really does work."
Calgary, Alberta Canada
“IF YOU SAY THESE WORDS, THEY STOP ARGUING”
"My grandson is 15 years old. He is extremely argumentative. He just won't stop arguing. He's obsessive about it. We've learned verbiage from The Total Transformation® Program that you can say and it's almost like magic. If you say those words, they stop arguing! Thanks so much to all of you and especially to James Lehman. I hope this program brings success to millions of families."
Pat H. (Raising her grandson)
"TOTAL TRANSFORMATION WORKS!"
"As soon as I popped in the first CD, I knew right away that we were going to get the help that we needed. It was as if James Lehman knew my son intimately."
~ Leslie L. (stepmother of teenage son)
Mill Valley, CA
Why not help your child turn around his life? Do it for your sanity, for the integrity of your marriage and the health and future of your child.
Get Your Copy of the Total Transformation
Note: I am an affiliate of Legacy Publishing because the program works. I published this review after going through the entire program and using its techniques. If you want to help turn around your child, this is an affordable, effective way to do so.