Defiant Teen

What To Do About Defiant Teen Stepson

My partner and I have been dating for two years. My children have grown and left the family home, so I moved in with my partner and his fifteen-year old son.

He is a resentful, defiant teen, who goes out of his way to try and prove me wrong.

Lately, he has started questioning me about personal issues. For example the other day, he asked why I didn't wear pantyhose to work on Friday. These questions are becoming more frequent and more personal.

I have pretty much left the discipline to his dad, and only join in discussions when there is a decision to be made and when there is a financial situation that involves me being financially supportive outside of the normal running of the household.

We do not receive financial support from his mother for the daily living expenses of this child. He has destroyed 3 cell phones in the past 9 months and now he wants a cell phone plan which will have to be in his father's name due to his age.

Dad is a very soft, caring man, and is being very manipulated by this defiant teenager. Meanwhile, my resentment for him is growing. I am pretty much sick of being walked on by this teenager, sick of the disrespect, and since we are supposed to get married this year, I am having second thoughts.

I'm not sure how to handle things anymore, so any suggestions about how to handle defiant teens would be welcomed.