Conflict with husband over disciplining the kids

by jacqueline
(chicago, il)

I recently married about 4 months ago. And with that came 2 children, my 9 year old and his 4 year old. Recently we had a huge blow up over a conflict with husband over disciplining the kids. It was about a disciplinary action that I enforced on the children.

They were in their room, supposed to be watching tv with their cousins, when they broke the bedpost! So I punished everyone including his daughter. Before I could punish my daughter, her father showed up to pick her up, so I told her she will get hers when she comes back from there.

Needless to say that did not sit well with my husband at all. He was furious that his daughter got punished and mine "got away free." When I explained to him that she will get hers when she comes back, he said that is not good enough, and from now on to leave any disciplinary action involving her to him.

I need help. How do I explain to my husband that I m not playing favorites with the girls, and when it comes to discipline that it is shared equally. I love my husband, but I do not want this to be an issue.

Desperate stepmom