child laughs while playing with his penis and anus until both are red and hurting

by Caty
(GA)

His mom just had a new baby boy. He just had nephrectomy for Wilms tumor. Had radiation to abd bc mets to periaortic lymph nodes and getting chemo He has mets to both lungs. Is staying In motel with grand parents until mom/baby discharged. Mom had c section that was scheduled and just got out of hosp bc of bilateral pneumonia. Has to move in with grands bc mom is 34 yr old immature, irresponsible and uneducated. Has had 3 pregnancies from 3 different males. Married once and divorced. Had miscarriage. Says this is her 9th pregnancy all different males Yet says Dr said it is hard for her to get pregnant. Has lived in communes, experimented with drugs, wants to spend money that was given to her when son had surgery on a new tattoo and eating out rather than eating hospital food because she does not like it. Makes son wait to eat, drink, be held or whatever bc she is texting her friend. I am going to be sole support of her, 2 babies, my husband, and 2 dogs. Am 64 years old and working 50+ hrs/week 900 miles from home and am spending 10 days at home helping. Seeing lack of interest in her 2 boys, but still calling and texting her friends. Also seeing the 3 yr old ply with himself while riding in a car, sitting in a restaurant, etc. When letting him play in tub and get bath he played with penis and anus, laughing till nearly hysterical and then he cried bc penis and anus were red and hurting. Platelet count low bc chemo. His father gets him sometimes but gave up a weekend of visitation to go to car race He comes home from visits w/father and is sick and dirty.


I fear sexual abuse. My husband says he does not want to think about it. I have to leave in 9 days to go back to work and leave my husband with the daughter (his, not mine) and the 2 boys and her dog and our dog and I am worried about it all, but especially the boys.

Is his behavior normal? I never had a son that lived. He died of real failure in infancy. Could the child just be behaving this way bc of all of the stress he (we all are ) under? What should I do on a Sat am? Am I overreacting?

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