Child Behaviour Problems: Ways to Restore Peace and Order to Your Home
Child behaviour can be a tricky thing. Parents can fool themselves into believing that defiant or chronically inappropriate behavior is just a phase that their child is going through, but often, it escalates with time. What can you do about these issues? How can you restore a sense of serenity and order to your home without going off the deep end or resorting to drastic measures?
Many parents are confused about what to do when it comes to their kids. Behaviour that was unacceptable and severely punished when we were kids, like being disrespectful to adults, seems to be the status quo with the children of today. Although you may not like it when your child treats you disrespectfully, you are probably more concerned about how treating adults outside the family will affect your child's grades in school and his future.
Of course in the wide range of child behaviour, being disrespectful once in awhile isn't as bad as criminal behavior, illegal drug use, lying, skipping school and the like. Obviously, these more deviant behaviors can be traced back to a basic lack of respect for authority, self loathing and of course, little self-respect. You can also see why even though disrespectfulness may be more common in the children of today, behaviour like this should be addressed immediately, so it doesn't worsen and lead to other unacceptable behaviors.
If the behavior in your home has already gone beyond disrespect and chronic defiance, then you need to take action quickly. This is because this type of behavior is not just a phase that your child is going through and can become much worse as time goes on. Eventually, the authorities may have to get involved. That's how quickly this can become a serious problem.
One way to address this child behaviour is with punishment or withdrawal of privileges, but this backfires with some kids and makes them even more defiant. The trick is learning how to set the limits without being harsh or punitive.
Another course of action is to take your child to a counselor or therapist. Therapy can work well for some kids. Other kids will just refuse to go, while some will go to their appointment, cross their arms, stare at the therapist and say absolutely nothing. Sometimes, a good therapist can draw them out. Still, it's essential to understand that there are no guarantees with therapy and insurance does will not cover all the costs, especially if it extends beyond your allowed number of sessions. Some kids go to therapy for years and continue to act out and have major meltdowns.
Rather than putting their kids in therapy for disrespectful and defiant behavior, many parents have learned how to use practical behavioral techniques at home that will help them teach their kids to ignore aggressive impulses and make better choices. These child behaviour strategies are easy to learn and apply because they are based on making measurable changes in behavior. You don't have to get inside your child's brain, you don't need to tell him to improve his attitude, but you can show him how to turn around his behavior.
The best thing about this method is rather than a counselor—a stranger—making inroads with your child, you are doing this yourself. This automatically increases your child's respect for you because as he starts to see how the changes in his behavior improve his satisfaction and quality of life, he learns that you hold the secrets to a good life. This is a powerful tool.
As your child starts to make better choices, he will feel good about himself and will be inspired to make increasingly better choices. This is how the transformation of child behaviour happens—one decision at a time.
A transformation of children behaviour is possible at home without the intervention of a counselor and without the need to take drastic measures like military school or teen boot camp. You just need to learn simple behavioral techniques and set the limits firmly, yet lovingly.
Click on Total Transformation to learn more about this effective at-home behavioral change program for kids and parents or call toll free 1-866-798-8629.