Bipolar / Borderline personality disorders

My adult sister (42) has started drinking heavily, abusing prescription drugs and threatening suicide, she is also a cutter. She has never left home and two years ago my mom died from cancer. Sis had been mom's primary care-giver for the previous 6 years. These bouts have progressively gotten worse and dad has recently become engaged which has sent these episodes overboard. We are currently trying the tough love principles and sis is currently being held on an involuntary basis at the hospital.

My dad and I do not have the money to send her to professional treatment centers, I doubt she would stay at this point anyway. I realize I am not her parent but I am the one all of the family goes to in crisis situations. Any suggestions, advise or direction would be greatly appreciated.

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Jul 29, 2010
Dont give up on her
by: Debra

I realize it has been a while since you posted this but I hope I can still offer a suggestion. I have borderline traits and years ago was referred to a therapist who specializes in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) skills.

Dr. Marsha Linehan has some great books and workbooks on this, but the best thing that happened in my life was to do work with a one on one therapist who specializes in DBT. Her name is Robin Day, she changed my life.

Helping me through the skills necessary to learn how to cope with borderline personality. I highly recommend not a general therapist no matter how much you like them, but someone who specializes in this very different type of DBT skills training which causes such emotionally intense behavior that causes so much destruction to a person and their family. Best of luck!

Apr 15, 2009
Bipolar & Borderline Adult Sister
by: Laura Ramirez

The borderline personality is one of the most challenging clients for a therapist to deal with. This is due to their lack of trust, web of lies, addictive personality, explosive outbursts and I-hate-you-but-don't-you-dare-leave-me stance. The problem is it is tough to find a good therapist if you don't have the money for treatment.

Hopefully, you can get your sister into a good county treatment program for her drug abuse with a counselor or therapist who is tough, caring and committed and who busts her when she is dishonest or gets off track.

Your sister has a long way to go, but only she can take responsibility for her treatment. All you can do is try to find the best treatment available and comfort yourself with the knowledge that you've done your due diligence.

To better understand your sister, read The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders : An Interactive Self-Help Guide

The author of the book is a colleague of my husband and wrote a back cover blurb for my parenting book, Keepers of the Children. He specializes in the treatment of borderline patients.

Hope this helps.

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