Stop Bad Behavior with Simple Skills You Can Use at Home
I turned around my child's behavior and so can you.
Are you sick and tired of your child's behavior? Do any of the following describe how your child behaves?
- bad attitude
- talking back
- constantly picking fights
- chronic anger
- disrespectful, particularly towards authority figures
If your child or teen shows any of the bad behavior listed above, he or she is out of control. If you're ready to send your kid to reform school, military school or boot camp ...
Read my story first.
Like you, I was ready to give up because nothing seemed to work. My son was lying, back talking, stealing, constantly picking fights with his sister and getting into trouble at school. I tried every form of child discipline, but nothing worked. I felt like a failure and as much as I disliked my son's behavior, I knew that he was suffering too. After all, you can't be mean and angry and be happy.
When my husband put down his foot and said it was time to send our teen to reform school, it broke my heart. I knew he needed something, but military school seemed so extreme. That's when I found this behavioral program
that teaches parents simple skills for turning around their child's behavior.
My name is Donna Marshall and I wrote this blog for parents who are suffering like we were. If you have an out of control boy or girl, then you understand what I mean. If you're at your wit's end, I know exactly what you're feeling. I promise you, there is hope.
Before I found this program, I thought I'd tried everything to help my son turn around his bad behavior. In fact, the term "bad behavior" didn't begin to describe him. He was obnoxious, oppositional, defiant, you name it. I even caught him stealing money from my purse. I knew if he stole from me, it wasn't long before he started stealing from others.
Worse yet, there was no peace in our home. It was not a place where my husband and I felt like we could relax because my son was always picking fights with my daughter and my daughter was beginning to act more and more like my son. We felt we had to tiptoe around our son for fear of setting off his explosive rage. I tried every form of child discipline, but when I punished my son, either it didn't phase him a bit or it made his bad behavior worse.
My husband's was no better at making an impact or communicating with our son. In fact, he got so fed up, he just stopped trying. I know he didn't mean to, but he felt so defeated and disappointed that he didn't have the heart to continue with our struggling teen.
Discipline Problems at Home and School Problems Were Getting Worse
When the principal called me, threatening my son's explusion, this was my wake-up call.
I knew I had to do something, but WHAT?
I got a recommendation for a good therapist and put my son in a behavioral therapy program. He was diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder (which is on the rise these days) and also with a mild case of ADHD. But after two sessions with the counselor, he refused to go back to therapy. At that time, my teenager was already 5 inches taller than me and 60 pounds heavier and I could not physically force him to go.
At this point, I just burst into tears and I couldn't stop crying. Compounding all this were my fears for my son's future. His therapist had told me that the research shows that kids with these kinds of chronic behaviors tend to gravitate toward criminal behavior. My son had already stolen money from my wallet and I knew that this was next.
This is when my husband said that we were sending our teen to boot camp.
Sick with worry, I stayed up all night, doing research on the internet. No matter how defiant or out of control my child was, I couldn't bear the thought of sending him away.
I thought what I wanted most from this situation and the answer was clear: I wanted to be able to reach my child. I wanted to help him turn his life around. I wanted him to be accountable for his behavior and how he treated others. Most of all, I wanted him to care about his life and his future. I wanted this so desperately, my heart was breaking.
This is when I happened across the behavioral program that changed our lives.
The program was developed by James Lehman, a therapist of 30 years who has turned around the lives of countless children and teens with problem behavior. On the CDs and DVDs that come with the system, he teaches you simple techniques that you can use right away. Best of all, this can all be done in the privacy of your home. There's no expensive therapy, no spilling your guts to a stranger, no dragging a reluctant, unmotivated child to biweekly appointments.
Just watch the DVD and listen to the CDs and you will learn everything you'll need to know to turn around problem behavior.
Here's what I learned from this behavioral program:
- My son's behavior was not my fault. This was a HUGE relief. It gave me the strength and courage to go on.
- Simple techniques to get my kid to listen and motivate him to take responsibility for his actions and how he treats others.
- How to apply consequences that would help my son learn to reflect on and change his behavior permanently.
- What to do if a bad behavior did not change.
Look, I'm no psychologist and I was able to easily grasp these lessons. I also saw immediately why what my husband and I had been doing previously was not effective. Understanding this, made it much easier for me to change the way I interacted with my son.
I also stopped feeling guilty because I realized that no one had ever taken the time to teach me these parenting skills.
I was very excited about the program, but when I told my husband about it that night, he was very resistant. Of course, he just had an argument with our son and was exhausted and fed-up, so I just let it go and let him go to sleep.
The next day, when my husband overheard an interaction I had with our son, he changed his mind. After our son had left the room, my husband looked up from his newspaper and asked, "How did you do that?" He was intrigued by the way I'd handled the conflict and actually gotten our son to cooperate and do his chores. That's when I told him about one of the techniques I had learned in the behavioral program. Suddenly, he was curious and wanted to know if we could listen to the program together.
Long story short, my husband and I learned what we didn't know about child discipline—these were skills we couldn't have learned without the help of a trained professional who guided us through the process and explained them in plain language. A huge burden was lifted from our shoulders as we both realized that up to that point, we had done the best we could. Free from guilt, we were ready to practice what we had learned.
That was a year ago. If someone had told me back then that my angry, defiant, oppositional teen would start taking responsibility for his actions, I would not have believed it. If someone had told me that one day, I would enjoy a close relationship with my teenager and that he would treat me with respect and make me proud, I would have told them that they were lying.
But that's exactly what happened.
The point in sharing my story is to give you hope. It's not too late. You just need to learn the parenting skills that no one has ever taught you.
But don't take my word for it. Get a copy for yourself and Stop the Bad Behavior! Get it now, while the company is still offering it on a 30-day trial basis.
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