Articles on Single Parenting: Insights that Give Perspective to Single Parents
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... will help give you perspective about the kinds of issues you will face when raising a child on your own. This is essential because as the old saying goes, "You can't see the forest for the trees," it is tough to take the big view when you're mired in all the details. Since you don't have a spouse or partner for support, this makes parenting that much more challenging. In this article, we'll give tips for developing a big picture view of parenting and provide links to important resources for single parents.
One of the issues I see a lot with single parents is that they feel guilty that their child is growing up without two parents. Many parents compensate for this by over-indulging their child either by being too permissive or by purchasing gifts. You cannot make up for your child's life circumstances by enabling him. Doing so, makes things worse because you will grow up a child who others will not like. Accept your situation and make the best of it together. Wasting time and emotional energy feeling guilty will never make things better.
Draw on outside resources. If you are the single mother of a boy, you can't approximate the relationship your child would have with a father who was present and involved in his life, but you can draw upon the resources that are available to you. If your child is into sports, seek out coaches who care more about the kids than winning and are father figures. This will provide your son with much needed interaction with a man who cares about him and will also give him a glimpse into how a strong, caring man views life and takes action. Don't underestimate the value of exposure to men of integrity in your community, whether your child encounters them in school, in sports, at camp or by participating in groups with shared interests.
Recognize that families are more diverse today than at any other time in history. In my family, my husband is disabled, we are an interracial couple (I am white, he's Native American) raising biracial children. Although we are not single parents, we definitely have our challenges, especially with respect to my husband's chronic, debilitating pain. Since my husband is disabled, he has never been able to chase or throw our boys up in the air and catch them. Understanding that you are not alone and that there are other families out there that do not measure up to the Ozzie & Harriet standard of what makes a healthy American family is helpful. We all have our challenges.
Articles on single parenting usually focus on the details, but I want you to step back and see the bigger picture. A family is comprised of two or more people who love each other and who work together to create a life that is an expression of their individual strengths. This definition of family comes from my heart. A family does not have to be comprised of people who have the same genetics, it is not necessarily made of people of the same race, religion or creed and one parent in the home does not make this cohesive unit less of a family. Appreciate the blessings that have been bestowed on you and hold your child close and tell him that you're fortunate to have such a beautiful family.
About the author: Laura Ramirez is the author of the award-winning parenting book, Keepers of the Children: Native American Wisdom and Parenting. The book teaches parents how to raise children to become progressively aware of who they are, what their strengths are and how to develop them to create a life of meaning, fulfillment and make their unique contribution to the world. Attention single parents: this book will take you deep into the heart of parenting and teach you much about yourself, both as a parent and a developing human being.
Laura Ramirez is available for seminars, keynotes and speaking engagements. Use the Contact Us link on the navigation bar to talk to her about your upcoming event. She also speaks at colleges.
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