absentee biological mother

by Monica

My spouse has 2 boys from his previous marriage. They are 8 & 9. When they decided to come live with us, she stopped calling, coming to see them, etc. He has tried many times to include her in their lives but she always has a negative remark. When she does call or come by, it's not a very friendly, especially motherly, exchange between them. They love their mommy and don't understand what is going on.

The oldest said "mommy don't love me anymore. oh well" and that broke my heart.

They are very close to me and I love them as if they were my own. I've told them time and again that i'm not trying to replace their mommy but that I am here for them always and no matter what.

What else can I do? We also have a baby girl, she is mine from before we got together and he is raising her as his own. They love her and she loves them. I try to include them in everything so they don't feel as though she has taken over their daddy.

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