a step parent for my son

by Lisa
(California )

I have been married for about 2 1/2yrs. I have a 9 yr old from a previous relationship and some days they get along but for the most part they don't. My son has emotional problems because his biological father was abusive to me. My husband and I are always fighting about him. And I feel like sometimes my husband is in competition with my son. I talk to him tell him I want him to do less when it comes to discipline and I want him to just be there for him and try to develop a relationship with him. My son does challenge my husband but my husband almost always over reacts and gets so upset and then I feel like I'm breaking up a fight between two 5yr olds. Then I'm left feeling like I'm not sure what to do for my son and my husband and I end up in a fight and then he tells me that he just won't say anything anymore and that if my son grows up screwed up it's all on me. I've been told that since we have a mixed family that we just need more communication to make it work but I try to communicate, it doesn't seem to be working and I don't know what to do.

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