15 year old son had cancer and smokes and is bad tempered
my son had leukemia at the age of 7, it took around four years to get through the treatment but he now at the age of 15 has the all clear. he has now been left with a small hole in the heart due to all of the chemo treatment he has had to have, he has a really bad temper, swears at me, kicks things, smashes things, calls me names and says he hates me, and does nothing he is told. i have found him to be smoking many times and found smoking materials in his bag and pockets many times which i have just thrown in the bin, i also suspect he is smoking canabis, we row constantly and never get on, im so worried about his health i cant just let things go, whereas my husband says he knows the risk let him get on with it and learn for himself, he thinks im not letting him grow up and that im babying him too much which is why he seems to hate me!
me and my husband row about him all of the time and it causes so much stress in the house, we also have another son age 17 and a daughter age 8 and a baby due any day now, if i tell my son he is grounded and not allowed out he just sneaks out when im not looking and he never comes home till very late, he is not eating healthy which is what doctors say will keep his cancer away, just junk food all of the time, we have been to family counselling in the past but it didnt seem to do anything and my husband couldnt keep going due to work commitments so we kind of gave up, my son has also been tested for adhd which we were told he hasent got as he is not like it when he is at school, he has been in so much trouble with the police recently too, he has had to go to court for stealing too. we may get chucked out of our social housing if his behaviour carries on, which is a very big worry also. im really at my wits end with it all and i am thinking of putting him into care only i feel so guilty about feeling like that because i know he has been through so much in the past, everyone says he is making up for lost time, when he was stuck in a hospital bed for four years!