15 Year Old Behavior

by Mrs. H
(Pecos, NM)

Hi Laura,


My husband and I have been having an argument about what constitutes normal 15 year old behavior. We have a son who is quite disrespectful to both of us, gets in arguments with his teachers, is always punching his younger brother and yesterday, after I told him to do something, he pinned me against the wall.

My husband travels a lot for business and isn't around to see what's going on, although he does admit that our son is very disrespectful. Still, my husband thinks this is normal 15 year old behavior and that our son will just grow out of it.

I feel it is abnormal and think our son's behavior is getting worse. In fact, the last incident where he pinned me against the wall made me realize that I am frightened of him.

Can you please settle this argument and give me some advice for what to do.

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Feb 28, 2012
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Father Time
by: Anonymous

It is NEVER okay and it is NOT normal behavior for a child at any age to disrepect their parents. Fathers need to step up to the plate and address this type of behavior and catching it early and setting the record straight is best. Fathers don't have to be mean about it, but just take those young men aside and teach them that it isn't okay to smoke, drink, cuss, and lay hands on other people. My personal advice is for fathers to obtain a copy of the movie "Courageous" and step up for your sons and for your family. Above all....set the example!!

Jul 03, 2011
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im a 15 year old
by: Anonymous

im a 15 year old who smokes, fails at school, but i would never disrespect my parents or hit my brother.

Aug 02, 2010
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by: Anonymous

As a teen, it is normal to be moody. But it is never ok to react with acts of violence to any member of your family, You should ask him why he resorted to acts of violence, make him know that this was wrong and violence will not be tolerated in your house.

He might feel that misbehaving is the only way he can get attention from you and your husband. You should ask your husband if he can make time for your son. It is important to have close relationships with your children during their teen years.

If this behavior continues you might want to get him a therapist,not saying that there is something wrong with him, but he might need someone to talk to and help him stop his acts of anger towards your family. I agree with you 110% this is not normal 15 year old boy behavior.
Best of luck.

Defiant Child Behavior problems

Jun 08, 2010
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Respected My Parents
by: Anonymous

I wouldn't even raise my voice at my parents at that age nor at any age. I may have tried to reason but I've always respected my parents as the people who gave me everything.

Dec 28, 2008
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15 year old behavior
by: Anonymous

Although it may be normal for a 15 year old to be argumentative and even disrespectful from time to time (after all, these kids are going through the process of individuation and trying to cope with the huge spike in testosterone in their bodies), it is NOT NORMAL 15 year old behavior for a teen to pin his mother against the wall! If you feel your son's behavior is getting worse, stop arguing with your husband and trust yourself enough to take action now.

Of course, it would be helpful if your husband would back you up on this, but if the most recent incident doesn't get him to see the light, then you'll have to take matters into your own hands.

What I recommend for defiant 15 year old behavior or for that matter, rebellious kids or out of control kids at any age is this child behavior help program. The program will teach you exactly what you need to do to make an impact on your teen and turn around his behavior. You can also get the program on a trial basis.

I recommend that you start the program as soon as possible before you have an incident that tops your most recent one.

Good luck to you and thanks for reaching out.

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